memoirs of a pianist.

It is a common belief that "titles" usually ruin relationships and put too much pressure on them, causing them to falter. However, there is no in between. Either we are friends, or lovers. Is it really titles that ruin relationships, or is it timing? I know of many relationships, both with and without titles, that are and are not working. This is the beauty of life: some people come in seasons, and others are meant to stay for a lifetime whether you use titles or not.

The longer you wait to put a title on your relationship, the better you will get to know your significant other, hands down. You get to truly connect with them on another level and build an honest friendship which is key to any relationship. Those few months of spending time, or simple conversation are your building blocks. Rushing into a relationship will only result in a waste of time. Nothing rushed is half as good as something that was done with patience, thought, and care. Building a relationship with someone is not an easy task. Taking the time to sort out differences and talk things out, is easier done when you are just friends. How many times do you witness a couple arguing over shit they could have settled a while ago?

Both partners must be in complete agreement about taking on the next task: staying in a relationship and making it work. Love, friendships, etc. are not one- way streets. Everything must be decided and spoken about, not kept secret. For example, if one person's heart is not in it, then the relationship will not flourish.

Making generalizations such as "titles ruin everything" is completely and utter nonsense. I know couples, today, who fell in love with their friend. They have problems and differences just like everyone else, but their relationship continues to grow. If two people fail to grow in a relationship, then they must move on to something else.

I've see marriages work, I've see relationships work. IT IS POSSIBLE. People just seem to forget that for any relationship to work, time and effort must be put into it. You can't have a perfect relationship in a day, it just won't happen.

THE TRUE ISSUE

Remember the whole "time" talk? Okay. Let's go back to that. Now, if all relationships need time to flourish, then time must be taken to really understand a person and wholeheartedly get to know them. Depending on the pair, this could go on from 2-5 months. I'm just putting a random time frame on it. Everyone has a different situation, therefore no advice will be the same for every couple working on starting a relationship. However, it is common for people to stay in this "titleless" stage, and not move from it. There is nothing wrong with being in a titleless relationship, however, neither party is actually growing nor learning from it. Eventually, one side of the party will realize that the relationship is not moving forward or as they planned, and they will move on.

"Time" is good, too much is bad. Simple as that. If you love someone, please don't hesitate to let them know. You might be a day too late.

"Better late than never, but never late is better."

Don't miss your chance.

Peace.